Found another notebook...

This one was obviously written after I filed the divorce papers and had moved out!

Will I be called upon for a statement re: E and our marriage?

Points~
- Before we were married and for the first few years, E was on depression meds and going for therapy, with and without me

-After he broke his back (he FORGOT the heating and cooling guys had TOLD him that they had taken out a piece of the scaffolding to put in venting. It was E's mistake that caused him to fall and I was his caretaker AND paid the bills, then went back to work when he was well enough.

-While my Mom was dying...E's anger about the way I was packaging an antique sled I had sold on eBay. He didn't ask me how I was planning to do it, just derided the way he SAW (I hadn't finished) and he wouldn't allow me to take care of my own project and its details. I was already upset over Mom and E's nastiness caused me to completely break down crying. I called Susie and Dar...when they came over, they saw him and how he was immediately. They hadn't seen him in anything but his "charming" mode before that.

-I called E's sister about the "disagreement" and all she could say was "E has issues"....like I didn't KNOW that! DUH!  Turns out that E had called her husband and J told him to "get to a marriage counselor right away".  LOL....I asked E several times to go with me and his answer "that never works" is very telling...since he's never been to one!

-My birthday...we were insulating the new attic and he hadn't said a word to me about it being my birthday. Then I didn't read his mind about the laying of the insulation. ANGER! I left him to himself and the insulation, then later he took me to buy a card for me while I stood in another aisle! He also bought a keychain for me and we went to dinner.  I didn't need a card or a gift or dinner....all I wanted was a hug, some kindness and a "happy birthday" maybe.....

-E "chum-punched" my bad shoulder hard regarding a 2"x2" chunk of leftover meat that I gave to the dog. He "wanted to have it for lunch". We had gone out to dinner the night before and since he put the chunk of meat into the box we put the fat into for the dog, I figured it was intended for her too. I guess I was wrong.

-E allowed my cat, Apollo, to get lost while I was at work one day. E had "gotten busy" and took his eye off Pollo.  I had to leave work to go home and find my little boy because E "had to go to work". Pollo came right out for me....
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More notes from the next page....

For attorney appointment of 6/9/2011

FLA house not sold?!?!  How does E's attorney not know???

MC house- E's "value" pre-addition was $60,000 to $80,000

My monetary contribution to the addition was $106,000 from the sale of my OWN house

We BOTH worked on the addition physically. We both planned the addition together.  My legal counsel HAS all the "proof" that I was able to get re: MY $$$ into the addition

Auction of marital property???? (per E when I picked up my pre-marital furniture)  How much? Where is the money?  Also, E called my oldest son the very next day and told him that he had sold my pre-marital furniture with the house and if he doesn't have it there, he'll have to come up with $1500. Since I had given the stuff to G, I told my son to ask him. G let it go and my son actually went out and HELPED E put it back.  Since it was MY pre-marital furniture that he had NO RIGHT (according to my attorney) to sell, shouldn't I get that money???
 I understand this forgiveness stuff of ACIM and NA, but REALLY!!!!

Judge "might" consider value increase as marital?!?!  My money, work and time was there as well as E's I quit my good job at UPS to be General Contractor for the addition (E's idea!).

If this LENGTHY process is not a continuance of E's emotional/mental abuse of me, what is it?? He's changed lawyers FOUR times!
Does it even matter WHY I sued for divorce? (Mental/emotion cruelty)

Dad's house- E demanded to be allowed to work on Dad's house to "increase" the value....
I was offered $68,000 BEFORE I had to gut the house of carpet and get rid of all Dad's things. I ended up with $70,000. NO VALUE INCREASE!!!  Plus tons of physical labor on my account because E didn't even start on the house for MONTHS! I paid taxes and utilities months longer than needed. The first offer was to close when I like and I wouldn't have had to do anyting but to take out what I wanted from the house.  E referred to the work on Dad's house as "practice" for MORE improvements to the MC house before we tried to sell it. He also used my inheritance $$$ for supplies (coerced me into it).

About the paralegal....does she communicate ANYTHING that I tell her about the $$$'s?? I have had to repeat and supply the same documents more times that I care to count.

Had to pay for a rewrite that was NOT my mistake. I told the paralegal which vehicle was mine and it's on the initial interrogatory.

Can we move this along??? E's attorney should be "caught up" by now?!?!

PLEASE get both depo's done before the next conference! This is RIDICULOUS!

Ask strongly for AT LEAST part of my attorney fees!!!

Also....I do NOT appreciate the comment that the paralegal made regarding how many clients there are. An attorney should NOT take on more clients than he/she can handle fairly. At his rates, he and his paralegal should at least communicate effectively and move along at a respectable pace!